I am here as an extravert who wants to learn from introvert people. Because my tendency is to overstretch my communicating capabilities. I genuinely enjoy listening other people and talking with them and building connections. I get inspired, in awe, in love, appreciate other people. But more often I feel over exhausted after that. I even thought that maybe I am an introvert really. After some consideration I had to reject this idea, I am an extravert, but the one who definitely needs to teach herself to feel better - when is it the time to take a break, to stay quiet, or slow down. I need to take more care about the inner well of my recourses. Because empty well is not fun at all.
I also think that before it was easier for me, because I didn't have a kid, and I am still perceiving myself as a person with the same amount of recourse as I was before becoming a mom. Now communicating with a kiddo takes away a lot of my energy, also my sleeping schedule is limping. So in the end I really need to keep it in mind. But I tend to forget. And not care about my sanity. It is SO interesting.
You actually sound to me very much like a highly sensitive extrovert. Something I've wondered if I might be as well. It's a difficult distinction, but a highly sensitive extrovert wants and needs social interaction, but at the same time they're easily overwhelmed/overstimulated and need a lot of time to recharge afterwards. (Because they feel everything so strongly and tend to pick up other people's emotions a lot.)
I feel like I'm way too interested and drawn to other people to be a "true" introvert. But I'm way more sensitive, (and less interested in small talk and events) than the average extrovert. Not that definitions and categorizations are that important, but just as an interesting note. 😊
Yeah, it might help, I think, I need to teach myself how to keep pauses in-between communication with people. So I won't feel like I am tiny piece of butter smashed over a big chunk of bread (always loved this metaphor from the Lord of the Rings).
PS: I have tits season open, have a feeder on my window and it always reminds me of your birds paintings.
Yaaaaay, tits! ❤️😂 We have like a million of them here as well. The Great Tits sometimes draw in like a whirlwind, pecking on everything, peeking inside windows and devouring all the birdfeed. 😌
Aww thank you, my hope is to be back pretty soon, it was crazy life for the last months. I filmed a bit here and there, hope to "organize" it somehow soon and do new videos. Thank you for thinking of me <3
Yes, I had no idea you were on the move. I hope you are ok, amongst the chaos of it all <3 this digital space seems nice... I am slowly finding my way around and wondering how the hell to utilise it! Hope to see you around x
Ah, Louise! What perfect timing you have! Yes, I am here on Substack too, because of you actually, but I haven’t yet quite got things where I’d like them to be in this platform, in terms of using all of the tools here as intended. Thank you for taking the time to create a video about how you’re using Substack.
I’m likewise a sometimes overwhelmed and always highly sensitive person. To manage my life well, I’ve recently found out how important it is to take things slowly. When I found you (via the Podcast episode you did with Kelsey and Al), I knew that I had found someone who finds success despite being someone who also takes certain things more slowly. I greatly appreciate that you talk over those aspects of your business, and how you place how you’re feeling over other projects or people’s expectations. I won’t go on too long. Thanks very much!!!
Hi! I just feel the same. In the pandemic i had my baby and its been so difficult to mantain any relashonship. I feel exhausted but at the same i would love and miss so much to have a conversation with another adult about stuff i care.
Firstly, thank you for your post, Louise - it's a lovely reminder that we can be slow and intentional and just take our time to read some good, more long form stuff over a cup of tea. Blogs and forums as they used to be (but with more shiny buttons!)
I fear that we have long been trained by social media, specifically IG and TikTok to not only rush over content, in this insane need to look at more and more without really taking any of it in, but also as a creator, to not truly present our real selves because we feel that we need to fit into a certain mould, to look or act a certain way, to just show the perfect bits of our art and lives. Or even because of this, to not show anything at all. Social media does feel fake and vapid right now, but a lot of us (me anyway!) can't seem to pull away from it, despite being very overwhelmed always and never actually feeling very good after a scrolling session. As for reach, I am lucky is 5 people see my stuff (I've been on IG for 10+ years). I also don't have a clue where I fit it anymore, or where my people are. Often it does feels like a slog to create work for these platforms, and I know that is because I am doing it for the wrong reasons. Not good, is it?
Perhaps Substack and the like will help to untrain or rewire our creative brains, slow down a bit, get into more of a flow state with creativity, to enjoy sharing our thoughts and feelings a little bit more, and to connect with others of like mind. Thank you if anyone even got this far :D
Exactly, could'nt agree more. Feels like we're all social media refugees right now, wondering where to go next. I'm happy I found Substack, otherwise, I would have still been clueless. I hope and believe there will be more options like it soon as well, to replace IG, Facebook, Twitter and TikTok. There has to be a new era of "social media", since all of us as so fed up and exhausted with the old model.
Wonderful newsletter and video! Very inspirational! Totally fed up with the Social Media monsters so I have started a Substack, not 100% sure what I’m doing with it yet, but hopefully getting there !
I am echoing what already has been said and rely like and connect with your post here. I think I have been labelled a high “functioning introvert” in the past but hey who knows.. I have been removing myself from the main parts of the internet as I know it affects my balance. The current world is not one I like or understand. I thought that twitter might be a good place to share my doodles, but turns out there’s some pretty negative and opinionated people there. I have been reading your stack? And really enjoy the insight that you bring to it. I have never really been on substack but I would like to try and reach a bit of community as life is pretty remote for me. All other places feels like shouting into the void. Maybe I’ll take your advice and give it a try.
Great newsletter this week and so insightful. I am an introvert masquerading as an extrovert so I kind of understand much of what you said. I thought I'd let you know that I am now on substack after hearing you speak of it in a YouTube video. It's early days but I'm enjoying it so far. Thankyou.
I am here as an extravert who wants to learn from introvert people. Because my tendency is to overstretch my communicating capabilities. I genuinely enjoy listening other people and talking with them and building connections. I get inspired, in awe, in love, appreciate other people. But more often I feel over exhausted after that. I even thought that maybe I am an introvert really. After some consideration I had to reject this idea, I am an extravert, but the one who definitely needs to teach herself to feel better - when is it the time to take a break, to stay quiet, or slow down. I need to take more care about the inner well of my recourses. Because empty well is not fun at all.
I also think that before it was easier for me, because I didn't have a kid, and I am still perceiving myself as a person with the same amount of recourse as I was before becoming a mom. Now communicating with a kiddo takes away a lot of my energy, also my sleeping schedule is limping. So in the end I really need to keep it in mind. But I tend to forget. And not care about my sanity. It is SO interesting.
Thank you for your email, Louise <3
You actually sound to me very much like a highly sensitive extrovert. Something I've wondered if I might be as well. It's a difficult distinction, but a highly sensitive extrovert wants and needs social interaction, but at the same time they're easily overwhelmed/overstimulated and need a lot of time to recharge afterwards. (Because they feel everything so strongly and tend to pick up other people's emotions a lot.)
I feel like I'm way too interested and drawn to other people to be a "true" introvert. But I'm way more sensitive, (and less interested in small talk and events) than the average extrovert. Not that definitions and categorizations are that important, but just as an interesting note. 😊
Yeah, it might help, I think, I need to teach myself how to keep pauses in-between communication with people. So I won't feel like I am tiny piece of butter smashed over a big chunk of bread (always loved this metaphor from the Lord of the Rings).
PS: I have tits season open, have a feeder on my window and it always reminds me of your birds paintings.
Yaaaaay, tits! ❤️😂 We have like a million of them here as well. The Great Tits sometimes draw in like a whirlwind, pecking on everything, peeking inside windows and devouring all the birdfeed. 😌
Nice to see you over here, Vera! I have missed you on YT :(
Aww thank you, my hope is to be back pretty soon, it was crazy life for the last months. I filmed a bit here and there, hope to "organize" it somehow soon and do new videos. Thank you for thinking of me <3
Yes, I had no idea you were on the move. I hope you are ok, amongst the chaos of it all <3 this digital space seems nice... I am slowly finding my way around and wondering how the hell to utilise it! Hope to see you around x
Ah, Louise! What perfect timing you have! Yes, I am here on Substack too, because of you actually, but I haven’t yet quite got things where I’d like them to be in this platform, in terms of using all of the tools here as intended. Thank you for taking the time to create a video about how you’re using Substack.
I’m likewise a sometimes overwhelmed and always highly sensitive person. To manage my life well, I’ve recently found out how important it is to take things slowly. When I found you (via the Podcast episode you did with Kelsey and Al), I knew that I had found someone who finds success despite being someone who also takes certain things more slowly. I greatly appreciate that you talk over those aspects of your business, and how you place how you’re feeling over other projects or people’s expectations. I won’t go on too long. Thanks very much!!!
I haven't either, haha. Keep procrastinating on starting discussions and publishing videos. 😅
It takes time, you'll get into your own groove after a while. 😊
And thank you for those nice words, that warms my heart. 🖤
Hi! I just feel the same. In the pandemic i had my baby and its been so difficult to mantain any relashonship. I feel exhausted but at the same i would love and miss so much to have a conversation with another adult about stuff i care.
Firstly, thank you for your post, Louise - it's a lovely reminder that we can be slow and intentional and just take our time to read some good, more long form stuff over a cup of tea. Blogs and forums as they used to be (but with more shiny buttons!)
I fear that we have long been trained by social media, specifically IG and TikTok to not only rush over content, in this insane need to look at more and more without really taking any of it in, but also as a creator, to not truly present our real selves because we feel that we need to fit into a certain mould, to look or act a certain way, to just show the perfect bits of our art and lives. Or even because of this, to not show anything at all. Social media does feel fake and vapid right now, but a lot of us (me anyway!) can't seem to pull away from it, despite being very overwhelmed always and never actually feeling very good after a scrolling session. As for reach, I am lucky is 5 people see my stuff (I've been on IG for 10+ years). I also don't have a clue where I fit it anymore, or where my people are. Often it does feels like a slog to create work for these platforms, and I know that is because I am doing it for the wrong reasons. Not good, is it?
Perhaps Substack and the like will help to untrain or rewire our creative brains, slow down a bit, get into more of a flow state with creativity, to enjoy sharing our thoughts and feelings a little bit more, and to connect with others of like mind. Thank you if anyone even got this far :D
Exactly, could'nt agree more. Feels like we're all social media refugees right now, wondering where to go next. I'm happy I found Substack, otherwise, I would have still been clueless. I hope and believe there will be more options like it soon as well, to replace IG, Facebook, Twitter and TikTok. There has to be a new era of "social media", since all of us as so fed up and exhausted with the old model.
Wonderful newsletter and video! Very inspirational! Totally fed up with the Social Media monsters so I have started a Substack, not 100% sure what I’m doing with it yet, but hopefully getting there !
Thank you! How exciting with your Substack. 😌
Great newsletter. Very inspirational with food for thought.
I am echoing what already has been said and rely like and connect with your post here. I think I have been labelled a high “functioning introvert” in the past but hey who knows.. I have been removing myself from the main parts of the internet as I know it affects my balance. The current world is not one I like or understand. I thought that twitter might be a good place to share my doodles, but turns out there’s some pretty negative and opinionated people there. I have been reading your stack? And really enjoy the insight that you bring to it. I have never really been on substack but I would like to try and reach a bit of community as life is pretty remote for me. All other places feels like shouting into the void. Maybe I’ll take your advice and give it a try.
I know precisely what you mean. I often feel a deep longing to just disconnect from the modern world. To rest my senses and my nervous system...
Luckily, Substack is a much kinder environment to share one's art and voice, and make connections. Really think you should give it a try!
Great newsletter this week and so insightful. I am an introvert masquerading as an extrovert so I kind of understand much of what you said. I thought I'd let you know that I am now on substack after hearing you speak of it in a YouTube video. It's early days but I'm enjoying it so far. Thankyou.
Haha, I relate to much to that. Spent most of my adult life doing the same.
Thank you! So happy to hear that. 😅🙏🏻